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Monday, September 14, 2009

ventings of an irritated bitch

a recent incident happened to a dear friend of mine that provoked me to release this deep frustration inside me.

as soon as there is a sniff of someone is in a very serious, life changing dilemma, people will start to give advise as if they are living that person's life.


what the hell is wrong with these "people"??


1 advise come from a person that just know her and i am still very unclear and suspicious about his presence and intentions in her life. and i think you should not give advise if you are doing what you are doing to your own family! so, fix your own life before trying to advise others.


and the other smarty pants - *sighs*. i know her intentions are good, but hey, you have never been in any financial crisis in your entire life to know how it feels like to eat rotten food because you are dead broke! you are in a life that allows you to live leisurely, and tend to your child. i am happy for you, truly i am, but dont pretend to understand how it feels like to make that hard decision. because you will never understand it unless you have gone through it.
for example - kids. i never try to even understand how it feels like to go through preganancy, child birth or even being a mother. because im not one. so i usually tell what my sister or mother did if forced togive an opinion. otherwise, i shut the fuck up. i know my place.

cant people just b a good friend - shut up and let her see inside her heart and let HER decide what is good for her and her family? do u like others giving u "guided and biased advise" on how to run your life??


i am not saying that i know her so well either. even though our life pattern are quite alike and that i know her most of my life, but i dare not claim to know her THAT well. no one does. not even her own mother! because everyone has something they leave for themselves. its called intimate thoughts, and its meant to be inside someone's heart and mind. not for others to probe, dissect and analyse. we all have our own point of view and own way of life and brains to think for ourselves. if we were to make mistakes, hey, at least we have no one to blame but our own self. and if we succeed, we will be proud to have decided it on our own, and the feeling is.....undescribable. i have tasted it, and now am an addict. i shall make my own decisions, good or bad. i will politely listen to others ramble on and try to shove their ideas down my throat.. but no more for me. i am my own person.

look, im not saying that we cant give advise at all. just dont make it biased to how you would do it. instead, give her a few words of encouragement and try to make her look in her heart and mind, and decide for herself. the reason why people sometimes depend on other people's opinion is that they are afraid. afraid of making mistakes and afraid of being ridiculed for it. so, just assure them that no matter what their decisions are, we will be there for them. that is how we all learn to be on our own self, and if God willing, be happy in our skin, and able to stop pretending to be happy!

i know this venting would offend people, but hey, i am the type that speaks my mind. to those who are offended, you have a choice not to be apart of my life.
for you , my dear dear, soft hearted friend, its time. time for you to take charge of your life. make up your own mind.

i'l be here for you.....no matter what....always. Love you.

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