The Pain of being in LOVE

Humans are not a crystal vase that's easily broken. But for us to be broken, that means something or someone must have a big impact on them in order for another human being to feel beaten and helpless.

Especially those strong dominant characters that we see everyday. So sure of themselves, so happy, know what they want, have everything that everyone else wish for...

But behind close doors..........we will never know. All of a sudden, we saw them down, depressed and so.........broken. We are surprised and thought they lead a perfect life. We wish to have their life. We then wonder, what the fuck happened?

What happened up to a point they brokedown?

It takes a lot to fully destroy a strong personality. But most common factor is LOVE.

The things people do in the name of LOVE are sometimes mind boggling.

I thought LOVE was suppose to be unconditional, trusting, dependable and most importantly it wont hurt you.

At first, the pain wasnt so bad. So you let it slide because of love. Then it accumulated and it was so bad that what started out as an slight emotional pain, now is a full blown heart ache and you can physically feel the pain.

Please do know that our loved ones do not intentionally want to hurt us. But it does not help the situation when they dont realise that they are hurting us, and the communication sucks. And on top of that, it looks like only one of us feels that they are the only one that feels there is a problem.

What do you do? That is the golden question that I know many would kill to know.

Well, first things first, you must realise you have choices, always. Even when you feel there isnt, there is. Its just that whether its an easy or hard choice.

Secondly, is your partner worth it? This question you must answer as truthfully as possible because it will determine the path you are going to take.

Once you have decided, then you choose a method to help to solve your problems. And it may take several methods to finally get the right one. So, dont give up.

Next, stick to your mission. Dont sway under outside influences until you reach your objective. Patience and preserverence is the key. Even when you think you have tried it all and still cant see any changes, just keep at it.

End result? If you have achieved what you want, then congratulations. If not, think long and hard on whether you want to keep trying or abort the mission all together.

But remember one most important rule. Any decision you make, is yours and yours alone to make. Just do it and dont look back. And if it doesnt turn out as what you want, do not blame others. Just be proud of yourself that you have given your best, and move on.

Now I know this is a lot easier said than done. Trust me, I know. But if you truly love them, you must give your best to make it work.

This is dedicated to all those love fools out there.

I am not sure why I wrote this. Or maybe I do know....